TomNelligan wrote:One person's opinion, for what it's worth..
First, I salute and thank Otto and the other Railroad.Net principals for keeping this thing going and for attempting to keep the discussions respectful and reasonably on topic.
I second that e-motion. I also appreciate the fact that the moderators are willing to listen to constructive suggestions. I've been peeved a few times, and I've PM'd whoever was responsible for a reason, and more often than not, the issue that peeved me was explained to my satisfaction.
John_Perkowski wrote:Tad and Dave are doing a superb job of moderating the toughest forum here at railroad.net. It's not easy. GBN had his style, Eric, myself, and Joe worked hard during our tenure, I don't think there was more than 3 days in two years we weren't emailing each other and Otto about something.
...If you want an education, ask Otto to be Mod here. You'll get one, I promise.
Stay the course, Otto, Tad, and Dave It's a good forum
Again, I second that e-motion. It's like politics in a way.....we all complain about politicians, but are any of us willing to serve? I taught training classes in the military for over 10 years, and I could tell you that the people who were sharp-shooting me would bail the minute they were asked what THEY WOULD DO or to demonstrate HOW THEY WOULD DO IT. And they were usually sitting in the back row (which is why when I taught I always made them move to the front row!).
justalurker66 wrote:A quick thought on moderation: Complaining about moderation is like walking into someone's house, peeing on the carpet, then complaining about the smell. This isn't my house ... I appreciate the fact that I've been allowed to come in the door. And since it isn't my house I'm not going to pee on the carpet or complain!
Amen, brother. I've gotten into a few peeing contests here (or more correctly, on the MNRR forum 67). I certainly have challenged some of the experts and moderators. I've also come to know (at least as far as this forum goes) some of the folks on here, and have apologized on ocassion in public and private. I've engaged in some baiting and attacking, and taking the bait. Hey, we're all sinners, right? But I do try to follow some simple rules (to get this back on to Otto's original post/request):
1. The internet is, or can be, anonymous, with the use of pseudonyms and alias'. It's easy to attack (flame) on here. The same goes for email, although email can be worse in that it can be forwarded to the wrong people. See my above admission. So do this: Don't post something on here
that you woudn't say to the person's face, whether it be for lack of courage, presence of others, politeness, or just for plain fear that the person you flame will beat the living bejeezus out of you.
2. Have a problem with another person? Try toning it down. Ignore it. Take it "off-line". Yeah, that's easier said than done. I've PM'd or been PM'd by a few of my buddies over on MNRR who I've had issues with or who have had issues with me. Sometime's it's hard to read intent in a post (see above rant on email). If the post is abusive, report it. And don't cherry-pick. If you're going to quote someone, try to keep it in context (although it annoys me when people unnecessarily quote someone's entire post when it's obvious they're responding to that post, or to a specific part of that post, as I've selectively quoted above).
3. Have a problem with the moderation? Do the same thing: take it off-line. Like I've said, I've been PO'd by the moderators; once we explain ourselves, it usually goes away. And remember this creed: always avoid public criticism (although it's been asked for here in this thread). It's one of the things I learned as a leader: praise publicly, criticize privately. If you must criticize publicly, try to do it broad-based (i.e. a team) and don't make it personal. And, if you must criticize, avoid ad hominem attacks (like posting dictionary definitions that you think apply to someone you disagree with, as just happened in another forum), and stick to the facts, or rebut the criticisms. Limit the criticism to the actual act. These guys work hard, and it's not polite to publicly criticize, especially when they provide a free service. The only time I ever got into it with a subordinate in public was when I was publicly challenged, and was forced to publicly respond, or risk losing respect, and that was after I tried to walk away.
Again, I haven't always practiced these on here, but hey, my meds needed an adjustment.