Trying to get people to empathize with your situation by insulting them isn't likely to win a lot of support.
I've worked side by side with gay and trans volunteers at the railroad museum. As long as they could turn a wrench, hold a welding torch or follow hand signals, that's all that mattered. They also didn't find it necessary to seek validation for their personal lifestyle from others while engaging in our mutual hobby.
Shouldn't be any different here. We're here to talk about trains. Not Trans.
This type of thread is a perfect example of why you see other forums shutting down discussions that start to drift into what we called the Three G's... God, guns or gays. All three of those drifts usually end badly.
The fourth G is Government, although with transit requiring government funding, it's hard not to involve that here sparingly...
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